What happens to a Christian Business Owner when he is in bondage to impurity?
Even though the current DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Revision 5) publish by the APA (American Psychiatric Association) does not include sexual addictions as a stand-alone diagnosis (http://www.projectknow.com/research/sex-addiction-effects/), the effects of constant attention to sex and sexual elements in one’s life has devastating effects on a Christian Business Owner’s ability to fulfill his role as a steward of that which God has given to him.
Note: Even though I’m using the male gender in this article, it should be noted that the population of women who are addicted to sex is on the rise. While their numbers dwarf in comparison to the numbers of addicts for males, it is a growing problem that will need to be addressed by the Christian community.
Paraphilia is a word used in this area to describe (also known as sexual perversion and sexual deviation) the experience of intense sexual arousal to atypical objects, situations, fantasies, behaviors, or individuals. Such attraction may be labeled sexual fetishism. The previous version of the DSM (DSM-IV-TR) describes paraphilias as “recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges or behaviors generally involving nonhuman objects, the suffering or humiliation of oneself or one’s partner, or children or other nonconsenting persons that occur over a period of six months” (criterion A), which “cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning” (criterion B).
Note: The DSM-IV-TR names eight specific paraphilic disorders (exhibitionism, fetishism, frotteurism, pedophilia, sexual masochism, sexual sadism, voyeurism, and transvestic fetishism, plus a residual category, paraphilia—not otherwise specified). Criterion B differs for exhibitionism, frotteurism, and pedophilia to include acting on these urges, and for sadism, acting on these urges with a nonconsenting person. Some paraphilias may interfere with the capacity for sexual activity with consenting adult partners. Noe that in the DSM, a paraphilia is not diagnosable as a psychiatric disorder unless it causes distress to the individual or harm to others.
The negative effects of impurity are as follows:
- Less time spent doing hobbies or hanging out with friends and loved ones.
- Loss of productivity at work and at home due to the distraction of the sexual addiction.
- Financial problems related to overspending in an attempt to satisfy the sexual addiction.
- Loss of employment due to absences, accessing restricted content on the job, workplace sexual harassment, or any other problem related to sexual addiction.
- Increased chance that substances will be abused.
People who are in bondage to sex and impurity often describe their lives as:
But the relational side-effects are difficult as well:
- Loss of trust because of lies, deceit, and denial of hurtful things being done.
- Difficulty in achieving real intimacy, either because of violations of trust that have occurred or because sexual partners are looked at more as objects than as individuals.
- Failed relationships due to infidelity, lies, or lack of trust.
- The chance that sexual addiction will lead to legal problems if the behaviors escalate to illegal activities, such as child pornography, soliciting sex, exposing yourself, rape, or any other violation of the law.
So, now that we’ve taken a look at the general effects of bondage to impurity, we need to ask the question with which we started: How does living in bondage to sexual impurity manifest itself in Christian Business Owners? I will suggest that there are five devastating effects:
Lose God’s blessing and start to live under curses (2 Chronicles 7.14)
I have written about 2 Chronicles 7.14 elsewhere on this blog (here, here, here and here), so I won’t repeat myself. Suffice to say that until you repent of your sin and turn away from it, God will not be able to bless you. Instead, you will live under His curses. You don’t want to live under God’s curses.
The larger point, from 2 Chronicles 7.14 is that your “land” (think “my business”) will not be healed (assume your sin is causing problems in your business) until you repent of your sin. Keep living in sin and your business will continue to be unhealthy – sick – diseased and so forth. Your cash flow problems might look like a collection problem, but consider that God is causing your customers to pay late. Your employee problems might look like training and maturity issues, but consider that God is causing enmity to exist between yourself and your employees that cannot be resolved by training courses. It may be that, no matter what you do, your business is deteriorating. You’re living under the confusion, curses and rebuke (Deuteronomy 28.20, 28) that comes from God when we, as Christians, live in sin.
I would suggest you get on your knees and see what sin you have that needs to be confessed before God, repent of your sin, then listen to His voice to see what your next steps are, both in life and in your business.
We lose our strength to discern and fight the spiritual battles that a Steward of God will need to fight
Your business does not belong to you – it belongs to God. Everything we have comes from God. We are merely stewards of that which God has given to us. When we live in sin, we lose our sensibilities (Deuteronomy 28.20, 28) and our arrogance kicks in, causing us to think that we can handle it – we can do it on our own. You know, Samson killed over 1000 men in his defense of Israel, but it took only one woman to bring him down. If you can no longer spot the spiritual battles that you’re in because you’ve lost your spiritual radar due to your own sin, then it will be no wonder that Satan will play you like a puppet. As a business owner, can you discern when you’re in a spiritual battle?
Lose your honor and dignity
Assuming your sin comes to light, you’ll lose your honor and dignity in the company of your church, your personal network and your business network. Is your impurity worth it?
Lose your wealth
You’ll lose your wealth either by spending it on one or more women or by your business deteriorating to the point of bankruptcy. But either way, the Bible promises that you’ll lose your wealth. Just consider the first part of Proverbs 5:
7 Now then, my sons, listen to me; do not turn aside from what I say.
8 Keep to a path far from her, do not go near the door of her house,
9 lest you lose your honor to others and your dignity to one who is cruel,
10 lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil enrich the house of another.
11 At the end of your life you will groan, when your flesh and body are spent.
12 You will say, “How I hated discipline! How my heart spurned correction!
13 I would not obey my teachers or turn my ear to my instructors.
14 And I was soon in serious trouble in the assembly of God’s people
If you’re in bondage to impurity – then do whatever it takes to get free. Do it today. It’s the only way you can steward your business for God in a way that will be pleasing to Him.